Mothers

2 is and always will be greater than 1.

That being said I have decided to just give in. My 2 beautiful girls will always beat me and have me on my knees. Mia is growing up so fast. What happened to those days where she slept all day and mommy only had to deal with a 2 year old and actually had some free time?

Clearly, those days are long gone. I can't complain though, because these little girls just make my days more interesting. Velani can drive me a little crazy at times, but then there's Mia who will always smile at mommy and make her day. Sometimes Velani will just take care of Mia if she starts crying and mommy is trying to cook dinner, sweep the floor and answer her phone calls all at once. She is mommy's little helper and you don't have to ask her twice to keep Mia happy and entertained. Thanks sweety for being such a good helper!

I know what I would do without two beautiful girls to love and take care of, but like Velani says " I don't mant (want) to!" I love my girls and my life would never be the same without them. I am learning alot from them. Love is one of those things. I love like I have never loved before. I would do anything for my daughters. They love me and teach me every day that love is the most beautiful feeling in the world.

I try to be a good mom and please them most of the time.

I have also learned to ask Velani what she wants for breakfast now ( I got tired of forcing her to eat what I wanted her to eat). I thought, wouldn't it just be easier if she just tells me what she wants? I won't have to fight with her anymore because she will choose it and that means she will have to eat it. So one morning I asked her and she thought for a while and finally said " Oh I know! Pasteti (spaghetti)" what? was she serious? Yes she was. So I gave in. She got what she wanted and I got what I wanted. Pasteti for her and a happy 2 year old for me. No fussing. No fighting. Everyone was happy. It was an easy morning and we solved that problem like two civilized people.

Another learned lesson: compromise. It's easier, you get somthing I get something.

I have yet to learn more patience, but maybe counting will help 1,2,3,4... "MAMI, MAMI" ok never mind counting doesn't help I have to go clean a little booty, "Thank you mami" she says. There's an example of what happens when mommy is feeling frustrated doing many things and then her daughter yelling from the bathroom, all while mommy tries to chill by counting, but then I realize that my daughters are also the ones who make me feel better. Hearing Velani say those words and being such a good girl, makes me realize that I have actually been doing a good job as a mother. There, all my frustrations are gone thanks to them.

Being a mother has taught me how to be a daughter. I realize that being a mom is not as easy as I thought once when I was younger. Now I fully understand that and appreciate my mother and thank her for doing a good job raising me, especially during my teenage years. I love my mother and I want to be just like her ( how many daughters have actually said that openly?).

Thanks to all the wonderful mothers out there. I know many of them and I can say all my close aunts are some of them and I'm sure if there were many more, this world would actually be a better place. Love your kids and talk to them, be their best friends. They will love and thank you for it some day, just like I love and thank mine.